The world lost an incredible mother, wife, daughter, friend, attorney, underprivileged advocate, and community member suddenly and unexpectedly on October 16, 2013. In honor of my late wife, Holli Wallace, I am training for the Hallucination 100 mile trail run and raising money for the Children's Grief Center of the Great Lakes Bay Region.
Tuesday, May 24, 2016
I don't believe in ghosts
Yesterday was the day that Holli and I met 19 years ago. We met in the driveway of a house in East Lansing (photographed above by Holli in 2012.) Tomorrow will be the day that Holli and I got married 14 years ago. Holli used to joke that she would haunt me if she passed before I did, although I guess we expected this would be something we confronted in old age. It wasn't scary. It was a comforting idea. Of course, I don't believe in ghosts.
That hasn't prevented Holli from haunting me and I am grateful that she does. Even after two and a half years, I still imagine her sitting next to me in the car or on the couch. I hear what she would say in response to both small and large events in my life. Memories replay on a daily basis with sad, but comforting detail. At times, the line between when she was here and when we lost her becomes blurred and I forget that she never saw Oliver play soccer, Elliott sell root beer floats, or even meet Peanut. I know that it is because I saw her there. I sometimes wish that I believed in ghosts, but I don't. This hasn't stopped Holli from haunting me. It is sad sometimes, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
Now I need your help keeping Holli's memory alive by helping me support the Children's Grief Center of the Great Lakes Bay Region.
1) Go here to order a shirt before June 12. All proceeds go to the Children's Grief Center.
2) Make a donation here in honor of Holli and in support of my run in September.
3) Share this post and, if you knew Holli, perhaps share a memory of two also.
**If I already told you that I would send you a shirt, no need to order one as I will have one sent to you.**