On grief and ultrarunning

Holli and I used to talk about running a fair amount.  Even though she wasn't a runner, she was my crew at all of my major races.  In long races it isn't unusual to lose the ability to understand clearly what you need or what is going on.  You can forget to eat, forget to drink, forget to change gear, the list goes on.  It is nice to have someone who knows what you need even when you do not.

We inevitably lean on past experience to understand current experience.  I've found that the difference between ultramarathons (in particular 100s) and shorter races is the number of ups and downs that you experience.  In shorter races, there is often a clean arc that goes from feeling great to feeling tired to feeling the elation of finishing.  With ultras you must endure several cycles of ups and downs before crossing a finish line that, at least for me, rarely brings a sense of elation.  Only later does a sense of satisfaction set in.

The myth of grief is that there is some sort of clean arc to the process.  The finish line lies when one has gone through all the stages, taken enough time, finished grieving or moved on.  The language of grief coming to an end is so much a part of our lexicon that you don't notice it unless you are given reason to pay attention.  Of course, it isn't true.  There is neither a clean arch nor a finish line.

On Wednesday, I heard my 4 year old son explaining to one of his little friends that his mom died.  Moments like that are heartbreaking and I know that there will be more. There is no finish line, just more ups and downs in a jungle gym of emotions that is neither fair nor predictable.  At times memories are a comfort and at times they are an open wound.  There are moments of pride and satisfaction as well as defeat.

The night after I finished my first 100, I dreamed that I was still running.  It had it's ups and downs, but I was glad to still be running.  And I felt strangely disappointed when I woke up in bed. 

Puke and rally

(Remarkably, I just realized that I was still using this blog the year that Holli passed so perhaps it is an appropriate time to start again.)

Photo at the start of the North Country Trail 50 in 2007

Holli and I had more inside jokes than I can count.  Many of them, like puke and rally, were sophomoric and likely only funny to us, but that had absolutely no bearing on their humor.  She was always young and humor was not dependent on the opinion of others.  Eventually such jokes become a language in and of themselves, a secret language and a shorthanded way of communicating.

The phrase "puke and rally" was chanted by a, likely drunk, frat boy in a movie theater in East Lansing during the opening night of the Legend of Drunken Master.   We were undergraduates at Michigan State University.  Patient as she was, Holli was indulging my appreciation for Jackie Chan and Hong Kong kung-fu movies.  The movie's protagonist had consumed too much wine to fight effectively and had, as the chanting frat boy and his friends enthusiastically cheered on, puked and then rallied.

I remember the phrase coming up many years later when I watched a friend of mine running his way towards his first and my second 100 mile completion.  After about 50 miles, he literally vomited his way for about 4 more miles, before rallying and finishing well ahead of me.  Perhaps not poetic, but representative of running 100 miles.  You run, fall apart, recover, run some more, fall apart some more, recover enough to keep going, fall apart, recover, run.

I have a file folder on my computer littered with Excel files outlining training runs for races that I never signed up for, never finished training for, and in some cases never even started training for.  I have floated the idea of doing a run for Holli for more than two years and it has lingered on a post-it note on my phone for over a year.  Each time, something got in the way, something was more important, or I just couldn't bring myself to lace up those shoes for the next run.  I'm registered for the Hallucination 100 in September and maybe something will come up and I won't make it to the finish line.  Even if that happens, I like to think that they are just small steps and detours in moving forward.  And I'll rally.

My fitness numbers

Well, here I am successfully in week 3 of my training program with about 20 weeks until the big race (Hallucination 100) and one week until my first race of the year (Trail Marathon).  I still have some training hurdles ahead of me (namely 18 days in Asia), but I'm still feeling good about my plans for the year.  Last week I participated in a study for a health sciences student at SVSU and went through a series of fitness tests.  In addition to the simple fact that I like data, I thought this might be a fun way to track the impact of my training program.  I get retested in a few months so we'll see if there is a difference.  Here are the interesting factoids about me.  Ratings (excellent, good, poor, etc.) and percentiles are based on some charts that they gave me at the fitness test and based on age.

• Blood pressure: 126/78  (prehypertensive, ug)
• Weight: 137.7 lb
• Height: 66.1 inches
• BMI: 22.2  ("normal weight")
• Total cholesterol: 220 (borderline high, also ug)
• HDL: 38
• Glucose: 89
• Skinfold (body fat): 15.7% +/- 3-4%  (75th percentile and excellent)
• Total Grip Strength: 84  (Poor)
• Sit-ups in one minute: 41 (Excellent, in fact I only needed 25 for excellent)
• Push-ups in one minute: 36 (Excellent, in fact I only needed 30 for excellent)
• Walking test (VO2): 51.3 (80th to 90th percentile)
• Sit and reach: 29.5  (Good)

First race of 2013

Well, I am officially registered for the Trail Marathon 50k at the end of April.  In order to accomplish the "No Wimps Challenge" I'm going to run the half marathon, which is held the day before.  I thought it would be a fun way to kick off my training for the Hallucination 100, in particular since the races are on the same trails.  Actually, this week marks my first week using an actual training plan.  I picked up a copy of Brian Powell's Relentless Forward Progress: A Guide to Running Ultramarathons.  There is a 70 mile/week 100 miler training plan that I am going to try to follow.  This is at the high end of my weekly mileage (historically I vary from 30-50 miles/week) and I'm a little uncertain as work/family/life has typically kept me from following a formal training plan.  On top of this, I'm not certain how I will get my miles in during my trip to Asia.  Still, I really want to finish the Hallucination 100 and, ideally, finish without falling apart in the last 25-40 miles as has been the case in previous races.  I also see it as a bit of a test of my self-discipline.  We'll see.  In either case, I am really looking forward to my first race of the year.  I've had a couple 20 mile runs and one 25 mile long run so I think a slow 50k shouldn't be too much trouble even following a half marathon.  My mantra will be to go slow.  I'm not sure that anyone is keeping track, but I have also switched from Daily Mile to Endomondo and put up a new widget here that accurately lists my total mileage for the year.  This is really just because I have dropped using my Garmin and started using the GPS on my phone.

International marathons?

Despite a bout of illness and a lack of any formal training plan, I think that I am grooving along pretty well and have a solid base.  With the exception of sick week, I'm averaging 30-35 miles per week with a few 15 mile long runs.  I'm hoping to get a 20 mile run in soon, perhaps tomorrow.  I'm intrigued by the "No Wimps" challenge that is part of the Trail Marathon at the end of April.  Basically, this just involves a half marathon on Saturday followed by a 50k on Sunday.  Sounds like fun so that is my short term goal with the Hallucination officially in my sights for the fall.  Besides, who doesn't want a "No Wimps" t-shirt?  In May I will be traveling to China, Taiwan, and Japan so I have kicked around the idea of running 3 marathons in 3 countries in 3 weeks.  That might be a bit much given our travel itinerary, but it is fun to dream.  Perhaps I can get one marathon in there.  It's been nice to be back in the groove and have some goals in sight.  We'll see about the international stuff, but I think I can definitely be ready for the "No Wimps" challenge, which is notably on the same trail as the Hallucination 100.